Sunday, August 18, 2013

Sunday Surfing and a Hiatus

I almost didn't post this week's Sunday Surfing links. I'm still taking baby steps and haven't done any browsing lately, but a few worth sharing did come across my Facebook feed.

I ask for your patience and understanding while I try to establish a new routine. Virtually everything I've written lately is either to or about my wife. I still want to reveal covers, participate in blog tours and host others. I just don't anticipate publishing much in the way of self-written posts for a while.

I am healing, but I am also still grieving. Myra would haunt me if I abandoned writing and blogging, so this is only a hiatus, not a permanent cessation. I am most grateful for your continued prayers and support while I adapt to life without my wife.

Now, let the links begin:

Famous Self-Published Authors

Promotion: Is Ignorance Bliss?

Typesetting Your Book In Word

Social Media Secrets Part II

5 Ways to Write a Killer Plot Twist

Standard Pages for A Fiction Website

Why “Show, Don’t Tell” Is the Great Lie of Writing Workshops

Three Top Strategies to Guarantee Book Sales

The screenwriter's nitty-gritty for the better bad guy

Evolution of a Cover: MENTATS OF DUNE

A look at the latest Thor: The Dark World trailer.


  1. Jeff, you know we love you and we'll be here waiting when you're ready. I think there will be part of you that will always be grieving. A love like that is forever. We'll miss you, keep checking in so we know you're alright. And please, let us knew if we can do something for you.

    1. And yes, she would be upset if you gave up on your dreams, but she would also understand that you need time.

  2. Take your time. We're here for you and support you. Lean heavy on God - He can take it.

  3. Heard anything about The Bonding yet? Or is it too soon?

  4. Time is the only thing that will make this all a little better, Jeff. I had to pull back as well, and even still, find myself unenthused to write creatively or post. But Mom was my biggest support...her story too important to tell. I'm getting back on the horse for her (and me). We'll be waiting when you're ready.

    M.L. Swift, Writer

  5. Dragon will also be here when you feel ready. Take your time, do what you need to do and keep getting better. Prayers and thoughts are still sent your way. Be patient and kind with yourself. See you when we see you. Dragon hugs.

  6. Take whatever time you need. Life is like that and sometimes our inner turmoil must be attended to. The heart takes time to heal.

    The feeling of being lost is common when one loses a beloved spouse. My mother-in-law said she lost her sense of purpose when Papa died. It took several months for her to come out of the doldrums. I know, she lived with us during that time.

    So, take care of yourself.

  7. Jeff, please take all the time you need.I have been lucky enough so far in my life that I haven't yet lost anyone so close to me, but I can imagine that it's going to be a long, difficult journey for you to get back to anything that feels like normal.

    We all understand that you need time, and we'll all be here when you're ready to come back.

  8. Just take good care of yourself Jeff. I hope being with your loving family helps you continue to get through this difficult time.


  9. This post brought tears to me eyes, Jeff. I can't even imagine what you're going through.

    Much love to you and your family.

  10. Take care Jeff, we are all here when you need us.

  11. Prayers continued your way, Jeff.

  12. I've been so hurt over my grandfather's passing this week, so I can't EVEN FATHOM losing your true love... it's beyond my comprehension. You are a light, Jeff, and are showing us what true strength is...

  13. That imagine was hilarious! Keep working out the mind my friend. We will miss you Jeff but you take the time to heal and we love you.

  14. Jeff, I'm starting a Sunday Stroke Survivor posting on Sundays about grief counseling. I invite you to read it over the next five weeks. I'm also doing a death in the family type counseling on my pastor's blog at the same time ( It seems that far too many of us are experiencing grief these days. If you prefer one on one I'm available through my email.

    Healing is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It takes time and it never really goes away only diminishes with time. It does become less critical. Take heart and take as much time as you need. This is not the time to make decisions for forever.

  15. I'm still praying for you every day Jeff! Don't worry about us here on the blogosphere, none of us are going anywhere. We will all be here when you get back. Take your time to grieve and find your new routine. *HUGS*

  16. Dear Jeff,

    My human and I realise that this is time that you need a modicum of comfort. Notable that you post and put up the links. If the verbalisation, when you can, helps just that little bit, then so be it. We echo the sentiments. We are all here for you, Jeff.

    On behalf of her human,

    Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar.

  17. Continuing to pray for your healing Jeff xx
    Suzanne @ Suzannes Tribe

  18. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Jeff. Praying for you and your family.

  19. I'm so sorry to hear about your wife, Jeff. Praying for you and yours.

  20. Jeff, my prayers and thoughts go out to you as you travel your path toward healing. May you find peace during this needed and well-deserved hiatus. We will be here for you when you're ready.

  21. Hi Jeff - I've come over from Morgan .. and I too feel for your sudden loss of your beloved wife.

    You've many friends here as well as children, relatives and friends - who I'm sure will tell you - take your time, you'll need to ... adjustment comes along.

    With thoughts Hilary

  22. That pic is hilarious. If only my biceps matched my brains.

  23. I am glad to see things are getting a little more bearable. As trite as it sounds, these things really do take time. And they should. Not being in a hurry to let go will let you keep the best of those wonderful years after the sadness fades into a quiet background. Take your time. Don't rush it.